In short
PairCalm is free on iOS and Android, with no ads and no subscription. Both partners log what they do, including the invisible work of planning and remembering. The Care Radar and a shared weekly summary show your care together without turning it into a contest, and small connection tools such as flowers, gentle notes and surprise cards keep the relationship warm. It works best when you both join, and you can start on your own.
Track the work
Voice and text logging
Say or type what you did, from the school run to the phone call you made. You can edit the date and time of anything you've logged afterwards.
You can log what your partner did, too →Pacts
Shared agreements about who owns what, with reminders. The scheduling screen has been redesigned to make setting one up quicker.
Why we call them agreements →Plan it
A to-do list for the two of you, with optional reminders.
See your week together
Care Radar
A short, warm story for each area of care in your week. It is built to appreciate what you each bring, not to compare you.
Weekly story and Insights
Each week brings your weekly story, a shared "Our care this week" summary, the moments from your week, and a private coach note that only you see. Anything the app writes for you goes through a safety check first.
Pulse
Your daily home screen: mood, gratitude and the day's question in one place, with ideas for small gestures based on how your week has gone.
How the nudges work →Stay connected
Flower Language
A set of tappable flowers for saying the hard things without typing. The flower that most needs a reply is shown first.
Heart Note
Write how you feel and the app helps you word it kindly before it's sent.
How to say the hard thing →Daily question and gratitude nudge
A small daily prompt for each of you, so appreciation becomes a habit.
The daily habit →Micro-reconnects and surprise cards
Small prompts that respond to how your week has gone. Surprise cards lean toward the area where one of you is carrying more.
How surprise cards work →Keep what matters
Moments Jar
Flowers and memories gathered into chapters, so the good moments don't disappear.
The memories you didn't write down →Together Board
Set up a shared goal on one screen, plan the journey and unlock milestone gifts. Goals can be as simple as going to the gym together.
How the Together Board works →Our Story
A single illustrated card that turns your shared moments into a story you can share.
Getting started
A Getting Started card walks you through the first steps, and a short "Once you're both in" section shows what unlocks when your partner joins. If your partner isn't ready yet, you can start on your own and invite them later. Prefer to see how the app talks to you? Here's how the nudges work, and here's what's new.